Fabulous & Sexy

How to be look Fabulous & Feel Sexy!

#1  Get yourself clean. Bathe daily.  But don’t wash your hair everyday, especially if it’s colored! This will fade your color and dry out your hair. Feeling and looking clean is crucial. Wash with a nice smelling body soap, a loofah or with a bathing sponge and you will smell great. Get out and pat yourself dry with a soft, fluffy towel, and rub in some rich body oil that doesn’t smell strong. You need to be soft and able to cuddle at all times, don’t neglect your hands, elbows, and feet. If possible try to layer matching scents on your body, such as soap, lotion, powder, and perfume. For example: If you bathe with a citrus smelling body soap, try to wear a citrus-smelling lotion also. Also make sure you shave your legs and underarms. Have deodorant on so you don’t have sweat stains.bathtub
#2  Practice good dental hygiene. This includes brushing, flossing and even mouth wash. Clean your tongue with a tongue cleaner or a spoon every morning for fresh breath. Get a check up and have your teeth cleaned often. Invest in a good toothbrush, water pick, and mouthwash. Always keep mints or breath spray on hand.
#3  Get groomed. Work with what you’ve got. But keep it neat and tidy. Trim finger and toe nails weekly, remembering to clean under the nail. No fancy nail polish colors are needed, but a simple beige color looks delicious. To do your eye brows with tweezers numb them with an ice cube then soothe them with any cream but if you can an Aloe Vera based one and pluck away. This takes away the pain and gives you full precision on the shape you want for your eyebrows. Or just wait until you get out of the shower, it’ll hurt less.  Once every 2 or 3 weeks, have a pampering day, including a manicure, pedicure, facial, and bubble bath, even if it’s just a spa day at home.
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#4 Style Your Hair. Make a trip to the hair salon. A new cut or style will make you feel sexy and confident. Having a change of hair color is nice, too. Go for something natural and not too dramatic. Deep condition your hair at least once a month. In the mornings, flat iron your hair or put it in a messy bun, depending on your style. Adding extensions or a wig can radically change an everyday look from “ho-hum” to “wow” to turn a few heads. Studies show that most men are more attracted to longer hair. This is because longer, glossier hair is associated with health; if you get ill, the first thing the body stops maintaining is your hair in order to concentrate on sustaining more vital areas. And in terms of evolution, it makes more sense for a guy to be attracted to a healthy girl, it’s become natural to be attracted to hair that looks more healthy. Get split ends treated for shinier hair and use heat protectant to prevent them from coming back.

#5  Create flawless skin. Do a steam facial maybe once a week for up to 10 minutes, to open up your pores and get rid of blackheads and acne. To do this, get a bowl of boiling water and a towel, and just sit with your face in the steam, using the towel as a little tent/mini sauna over your head and the bowl. Doing it for longer then 10 minutes will just stress out your skin, which will just make it worse, so be careful. Wash your face right away afterwards with a cleanser made for your type of skin. Then rinse and splash your face with cold water to close your pores or, alternatively, get an ice cube and wait for it to melt a little. Then smooth it gently over your face until it melts; this closes your pores and prevents dirt going back into them. An alternative to this is to use a facial scrub to get rid of flaky, dead skin cells

#6  Show your personal style. If you are comfortable and look good, you will feel good. Forget trendy, find what looks good on you and your body type.

#7  Look in the mirror.  What features you are most satisfied with? identify them and play them up,  show them off with clothes, makeup, or accessories.  If you seem to know what you’ve got, others will get the message and notice you for what you have.

#8 Invest in a good pair of jeans. Dark denim looks good on all body types.

#9 Pick clothes that flatter your figure, and that you feel comfortable in. There’s no point picking the latest fashions if you don’t feel comfortable in them. Pick clothes that make you feel like ”you”.

#10 Wear jewelry that excites you. Find colorful, fun, bright chunky necklaces and bracelets, but if you wear lots of pearls and beads, don’t wear a shirt that has a pattern or a picture on it. Wear a monochromatic top with lots of multicolored jewelry.

#11 Black is sexy. It hides fat, creates curves and makes you feel like a goddess. Invest in an eye catching LBD.
#12 Sexy undergarments. But don’t flash them. Be classy about it, otherwise you look trashy. Try to maintain class as much as possible, while still being sexy.
# 13 Wear make-up. Just make sure not to go overboard. Subtle is very sexy in the same way that less is more. Accent one feature at a time. For example, one day, put on lip-liner, bold red lipstick, and mascara. For another day, wear subtle pink or clear lip gloss, and wear eye-liner to make your eyes stand out. If you need help creating a look, a mall makeup counter or independent beauty consultant would be happy to teach you for free.

#13 Get-in-Shape. Create an at home workout plan. Crunches and lunges equal flat, hard abdominal muscles, lunges equal toned legs, and squats equal a toned backside. Running or jogging works all muscles of the body and increases your stamina. Plus, the hormones your body releases while exercising carry on through your evening activities to contribute to your new sexy attitude.

#14 Sexy doesn’t equal skinny. Men are attracted to all body types. Curvy women are sexy too. Its all about the confidence you exude.

#15 Sex appeal involves a belief in yourself that you can and will appear sexy. Most public icons or even film stars carry their sexiness in their confidence. Even a simple smile shows confidence and appeal. In fact the starting point to sexiness starts with confidence. Find your passion in life.  Do you love to dance?  Act?  Sing? Listen to music that makes you move your hips? Remember, confidence is the key to being fabulous.


Fabulous Men

It’s not just the ladies that need assistance in the wardrobe department, but the men could use a little help as well. Now I am going to make a huge generalization here; but why is it that most American men seem to ignore grooming and stylish dress, yet the European men seem to pull it off flawlessly? Now I know there are some impeccably dressed American men out there and they usually reside in our US major metropolitan cities, but the rest of the country seems to need help. I  know it is my own opinion and many women may disagree but there are a few things I can’t stand seeing on men.

1. Baggy pants that hang– Come on guys nobody wants to see your underpants. Plus those underpants aren’t usually even a fun flashy design, just plain ole tighty whiteys! Please pull up your pants. Better yet, get a pair of slacks that fit, a nice slim pair of trousers will show off your back side better than your old BVD’s.

2. Baseball caps- What are you hiding under there? If your hair is a mess, why not keep it short and cropped so you are always ready to go? If you are losing your hair, get an attractive cut that emphasizes what you have left. Look at Prince William, he is losing his hair and is still as polished and attractive as ever. A little hair product and a quick comb and you could look debonair instead of just plain sloppy. Now baseball caps are acceptable at say a baseball game. But even out in the sun, come on guys there are more attractive options out there.

3. Old t-shirts with a logo– Why advertise for someone else, unless you are getting paid to do so. Plus it just looks plain tacky. A nice button down shirt or Polo could serve you quite well, but instantly pulls your look together.

4. A beer gut- Now guys I’m not saying you need to be ripped, but come on! A beer gut hanging out of your t-shirt is never attractive.

5. Wife beaters- I am sure this one is a little more random, but I can’t stand to see a man in a tank top. Who wants to see unkempt arm pit hair?

I’m just curious ladies, which do you find more attractive?

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French and Fabulous!

Why French Women Look Fabulous….

I must admit that I am a Francophile. I devour every book, DVD and CD on France that I can get my hands on. But what I am most intrigued by is the French women and the Parisiennes to be exact. In all of my travels I have found it to be true, they do have an extra dose of flair and panache. Now I am no slouch myself, but the Parisiennes seem to do it all with such ease.  But what else makes these women uniquely chic? To find out, we asked a few in-the-know individuals to explain the je ne sais quoi of Parisienne beauty.

Fabulous Hair -There’s something particular about French women. They don’t wash their hair every day. They can’t stand the product too heavy on their hair and scalp. They try to be a little bit more cautious of what’s going on with a product.The French woman loves to be sophisticated, but at the same time she doesn’t want any style that you can see that something’s happened. French women are very sophisticated with beautiful textures, beautiful makeup, but it’s never too much.

French supermodel -Naturalism. Hardly any makeup and just really chic clothing. I love that French women let their skin show. The most attractive thing to me is when you can see a woman’s skin. For me, when I’m getting my picture taken, they put makeup on me and all that. For every day, it’s so nice to be able to look at a woman and see her skin.
The real beauty-“With regard to my hair, I’ve always had a certain ‘no fuss’ mentality, which I think came from my mother. Neither one of us is very concerned with over-styling our hair. In fact, I let it air dry and actually like a bit of what might be referred to as frizz. For me, it’s just added body. My feeling is that if hair is clean and shiny, it’s gorgeous.” — Mathilde Thomas, founder of skincare brand Caudalie

The makeup maven-The French girl’s beauty approach is all about subtlety and elegant details, which are also key trends of this season. Everything starts with good skin care, good cleansing habits, and perfectly moisturized skin. Never a heavy skin look on Mademoiselle, sheer tinted moisturizers, light foundations, and highlighters are the French girl’s best friend! To finish, she is always chic: wearing a feminine detail with a gorgeous eyeliner or the most perfect red lips ever.

So ladies now that the secrets are out of the bag, we can all look like a Fabulous French Beauty.

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Be Free


“Everyone talks about freedom. All around the world different people, different races, different countries are fighting for freedom. But what is freedom? In America we speak of living in a free country. But are we really free? Are we free to be who we really are? The answer is no, we are not free. True freedom has to do with the human spirit – it is the freedom to be who we really are.”  – Don Miguel Ruiz from The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom

The most difficult, but most rewarding, aspect of creating your own individual simply luxurious life, is breaking free from the chains of society – the expectations, the traditions, the imposed belief systems – that imprint themselves onto us while we are innocently trying to grow-up, figuring out our direction in the world toward our true bliss.

Don Miguel Ruiz’s book The Four Agreements enlightens readers to the realization that life can be either fear based or love based, and unfortunately many people choose fear thinking they are choosing love.

What is the difference? Living a life based on fear is living a life constantly seeking acceptance from peers, colleagues, family, spouses, children, as well as ourselves and letting our emotions of anger, sadness, envy and jealously run our lives. While on the other hand, living a life based on love focuses on his four agreements – (1) being impeccable with our word; (2) not taking anything personally; (3) not making assumptions; and (4) always doing our best.

When we choose to focus on these four agreements, we are choosing to live a life built on a foundation of love, rather than on a foundation of fear. Let’s break down each one.

1) Be Impeccable with Your Word

“Depending upon how it is used, the word can set you free or it can enslave you even more than you know.”

The words you speak. The words you write. The tone you use – genuine, sarcastic, curt, gentle, etc – all come from where you find yourself in your life. If you feel safe and at peace with the life you’ve created, there is no need for sarcasm or venom. On the other hand, if you feel threatened, insecure or scared, you perhaps will tell a lie, say something subtly cruel to push someone’s button to make them feel the insecurity you feel or raise you voice aggressively.

By choosing to be impeccable – defined as without sin (sin being anything that you do that goes against yourself) – you are only saying what is true for you – no lies, no repressed emotion, no intent to hurt, rather being authentically who you are and what you know to be true. When you speak impeccably you take responsibility for your actions and then move on without judgment, guilt or blame.

“How much you love yourself and how you feel about yourself are directly proportionate to the quality and integrity of your word. When you are impeccable with your word, you feel good, you feel happy and at peace.”

2. Don’t Take Anything Personally

“Nothing other people do is because of you.  It is because of themselves . . . When we take something personally we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world.”

The second agreement is easier said then done because initially we don’t realize how we’ve allowed our emotions to own the reins of our decisions and therefore our lives. But when we have control of our emotions, thereby controlling our thoughts, we can halt the spontaneous reaction that occurs when someone makes a statement – good or bad. For example, “How could you do that? Are you stupid?” or “You are very smart. Bravo!” If we know ourselves, if we accept who we are, we know we’re not stupid, and we also know we are smart without needing the approval of others. So upon hearing either statement, we can hear it without being knocked down or bolstered falsely (in other words, needing someone else to say we are in order to believe it). Most importantly, we take back the power because we’ve refused to allow others’ opinions dictate our mood or our behavior.

But the question may arise, what if I am surrounded by people or involved with a person who is constantly degrading me or praising me falsely? What do I do?

“If someone is not treating you with love and respect, it is a gift if they walk away from you. If that person doesn’t walk away, you will surely endure many years of suffering with him or her. Walking away may hurt for awhile, but your heart will eventually heal. Then you can choose what you really want. You will find that you don’t need to trust others as much as you need to trust yourself to make the right choices.”

When you begin not taking what other people say personally, you will only need to trust yourself to move forward making responsible choices, rather than trusting others. Yes people may hurt you or they may become someone who brightens your world becoming dependable as a rock. Either way, if you know you can trust yourself, lean on yourself in tough times, make the right choice even in celebratory times, then you know if they walk away or cease to be with you, you will be fine.

3. Don’t Make Assumptions

“It is always better to ask questions than to make an assumption because assumptions set us up for suffering.”

Why do we make assumptions throughout our lives? Why do we judge someone without knowing the full context? We do so because we have a desire to know, and when we don’t know, we begin to fill the gaps with assumptions. And when we don’t have the courage to ask the right questions to gather the necessary information, we get ourselves into trouble.

Whether we are dating someone knew, getting to know new people or reading an interview of someone, whatever is left out, we fill with our own understanding of how the world has worked for us so far. And as we all know, we each have had different experiences which gives us different perspectives on life.

While upon learning the whole truth, we may not choose to continue dating or spend time with certain people, that is perfectly fine, but the problem arises when we remain and hope to change someone. The only way people can change is if they choose to.

“Real love is accepting other people the way they are without trying to change them.”

In order to build relationships that are built around real love we must find our voice and be able to speak up, asking the questions that are necessary, revealing our true selves to them to see if they truly accept us and then finding the courage to walk away if real love isn’t present.  Ultimately, communication is the key to having successful relationships in every aspect of our lives.

4. Always Be Your Best Self

“If you always do your best, there is no way you can judge yourself. And if you don’t judge yourself there is no way you are going to suffer from guilt, blame and self-punishment. By always doing your best, you will break the big spell you have been under [of believing you aren’t enough or aren’t doing enough].”

One of the best ways to lift the burden of any defeat or stumble is knowing you’ve done your best.  Because so long as you gave it everything you had at that exact moment, you know you’ve left it all on the court. Each time you give your best, you improve. Consider it practice, and as you practice you become more and more of an expert, and gradually you are transformed.

The gift of always doing your best is that you gradually find your purpose and your path. And when you find what you love, you only want to do your best. Simply being able to participate in doing something you thoroughly love in the best reward, rather than trudging through solely for the reward at the end – the pension, the graduation, the paycheck, etc. When you find pleasure and happiness throughout the entire process, you find your bliss.

Now I know today was a long post, but I found myself devouring The Four Agreements over the duration of twelve hours this past weekend (eight of which were sleep) on my Kindle. And while I realize it was originally published in 1997, if you haven’t read this book, I strongly suggest that you do. And even if you have, perhaps reading it again will solidify how you continue to move forward as adhering to these agreements is a process that will take time especially if any or all of these agreements have not been a part of one’s life.

I guess it’s true, the student must be ready to learn the lesson, and in this case it took me sixteen years to be ready, but I am so thankful this book came along. And I think you will be too.

Reposted from Simply Luxurious Life